The very first step is to choose a variable to solve for. Traditionally, I always solve for "y" first, and then I'll solve for "x". Here's the problem, step by step:
x + y = 4x - y = 5 {Here, I'll solve for "y"}
x + y = 5 {Remember that the problem establishes that each part of the problem containing variables are equal to "5"}
y = 5 - x
4x - y = 5 {Again, each part containing variables is equal to "5"}
4x - (5 - x) = 5 {We solved for "y" earlier, so now we plug it in to the equation to solve for "x"}
5x - 5 = 5
5x = 10
x = 2
y = 5 - x {Go back to how we solved for "y" and plug in the value for "x"}
y = 5 - 2
y = 3
Presto: x = 2, and y = 3. Problem solved! The important step is to isolate one of the variables first and solve for it. Then you can plug and chug your way to answer. Hope this helps.