There are 4 cases:
Husband's | Wife's
relatives | relatives
Case invited } invited
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1. 3M, 0W | 0M, 3W
2. 2M, 1W | 1M, 2W
3. 1M, 2W | 2M, 1W
4. 0M, 3W | 3M, 0W
Case 1: Choose the husband's 3 men relatives 3C3 = 1 way.
Choose the wife's 3 women relatives 3C3=1 ways.
That's 1*1 = 1 way for Case 1.
Case 2: Choose the husband's 2 men relatives 3C2 = 3 ways.
Choose the husband's 1 woman relative 4C1 = 4 ways.
Choose the wife's 1 man relative 4C1=4 ways.
Choose the wife's 2 women relatives 3C2 = 3 ways.
That's 3*4*4*3 = 144 ways for Case 2.
Case 3: Choose the husband's 1 man relative 3C1 = 3 ways.
Choose the husband's 2 women relatives 4C2 = 6 ways.
Choose the wife's 2 men relative 4C2 = 6 ways.
Choose the wife's 1 woman relative 3C1 = 3 ways.
That's 3*6*6*3 = 324 ways for Case 3.
Case 4: Choose the husband's 3 women relatives 4C3 = 4 ways.
Choose the wife's 3 men relatives 4C3=4 way.
That's 4*4 = 16 ways for Case 4.
Grand total from all cases: 1+144+324+16 = 485 ways.
Edwin